Most women are on welfare with a bunch of kids by different fathers and have to live section 8 because of debt and bad credit. This point goes both ways. All the standoffish gestures and deceitful games that women play do not help them to attract mature men if you ask me. The world would be a better place if people were more direct with each other. If you truly say who you are I applaud you, please stay that way.
Focus your energy on career and building and the right woman may come, even if she does not you will have freedom, money and no distractions to enjoy your life. And most men know what we want. Problem is most men are scare to speak up about the truth. Colonel Sanders started KFC in his 50s, and you think the same way as his ex girlfriend before he made millions, want to know the odds that she came crawling back?
They only want what you can provide them. A lot of women these days unfortunately now have their very high unrealistic expectations and standards, unlike the past they really never had that at all. And with so many women being very independent which makes it very difficult for many of us single guys trying to find love now. Yes their standards have gone unrealistic but us men are equally to be blame to allow them to be so picky. Men need to stop sending messages and get off the dating apps completely then things will start to change.
While at it focus only on building resources. Woman here who stumbled on this site due to a Google search about me being uncertain. Some of the comments posted make me disappointed in my own gender. Trust me, no signals or clues were used when I directly asked all of my male partners. All genders have their own issues and problems and sometimes I wish we could just come to a mutual understanding about expectations in life.
Thank you for sharing. It sounds like those men were indecisive about what they were looking for. I know that as a man, I would like to know where a relationship is going after a certain point too. I hope you meet someone with that level of maturity. To your point, why does that question even need to be asked?
Even if you are fine with and practice casual sex a little as a person, it hurts my spirit to know that lovers cannot be more on the same page. This is not to blame one party. Both parties are responsible for lack of this level of connection. I finally met this girl. I get to date sporadically, when the gods will. I dunno I love the Germans for their logic and frankness. I was like, yes, this is it. Hardly leaves the home. Anyway we met online. She came over we hooked up. For a week we were walking, holding hands hooking up and then whoosh I was ghosted.
She says she wants to avoid people till covid is done. It was just when it was starting. She is a homebody of homebodies. She lost a guy a few years ago that she dated. No offense but get over it. She was just so warm and hot for me and I really liked her too but then it tanked. She lost that loving feeling. I have a life.
What do I gotta do?! Disgust almost, about the general idea that people lovers are not implicitly more on the same page. Girls like you have to ask where this is going?
Literally every woman on this planet does those things every single day. But somehow men are the ones with the attractiveness issue. You sir are a cuck. Not true my friend, women are designed to look for resources over looks. Please take celebrity status of Brad Pitt or any male celebrity for that matter, they would be as average.
Lets face it, women do have it very easy when dating compare to many of us men unfortunately. So this certainly makes it very impossible for many of us single men really trying to find love today, because of the way women really are today now unfortunately. Quite a real change in the women today from the old days unfortunately. Very obvious why so many of us men are still single today, and not by choice either.
At the age of 41 I have finally given up on dating and women. As most men will echo its better to just give up then repeatedly expose yourself to rejection or low quality women. Im just done with year old women wanting to act and live like teenage girls, especially ones who supposedly are oppose to have their lives together, I have meet several nurses who were train wrecks.
Just so done with all of it. Similar level of success as you and yet we are judged. I had this discussion with a married couple once. Heard this one? Ads have started to depict women as smart and men as stupid. What is this? Sure, if you want one you gotta have game. After reading this article and several of these comments, I am not surprised why men are going their own way.
It seems like life is even more enjoyable when you have complete autonomy, complete control of your money and do not have to answer to another human being. When you look at so many women nowadays that have their very high outrageous unrealistic expectations and standards, which tells the whole story right there.
It is so sad reading these comments from men. Gentlemen, there are hundreds of women who would love to get to know you. Be her friend. Show her what you have to offer. You all have wonderful qualities! That scares me. I have had the ex-husband who used me. I want a good man who is an equal partner in life. I need someone who can match me. Have those important conversations about what your expectations are in the relationship. And i was married at one time myself before she cheated on me, and i really thought that i had finally met the right one before this happened to me.
Most women nowadays i do have to say are very toxic now more than ever, especially the ones that have no manners and personality at all when it comes to many of us single guys trying to start a conversation with them. Very difficult for many of us trying to meet a decent normal woman which would be very nice for a change if only we could get that lucky.
Women today have really changed since then. Why do you think women are vending machines you put kindness tokens into and get sex out of? Oh my, not this woman. At the grocery, gym, meetups, waiting for the street light to change. In fact, yes, love it more than EVER. I also loved being married for 26 years until I found out about his secret double life. Yes, people suck. Both men and women. But, not everyone. Can we cut that crap please? How about the girl that tries to string you along wanting you to marry her so she can get that Green Card?
We, as men, are told to keep pushing forward but it gets emotionally draining. Every now and then I feel tempted to stick my toe in the pool again and test the waters.
To the rest of you who push forward with this modern dating scene, more power to ya. They are not and have never been enjoyable. Most single women as it is are very toxic to begin with, since they just play too many games and really need to grow up. With most of these women that are real narcissists to begin with, which makes it worse really trying to meet a good one today.
I pull in a six figure Salary am quite attractive and very fit. I have something like 55 matches on tinder alone am speaking with 2 or 3 at any one time. The last 4 woman I dated were 28, 40, 33, I am I have two children 13 and 11 and yep am a smoker.
That all stated. Dating absolutely sucks! I come from an era where men ran the roost. We were still up against the usual obstacles of pretension or gold diggers, woman who would play with hearts or just not be that into.
But people I tell you what, these days woman are broken. Here is a brief list of complaints. The 27yo was totally gorgeous a hair dresser had a good heart. She was broken in that the first obstacles we faced after 6 months left her too unsure whether to try and make it work.
Damn near broke my heart. The 33yo was even more beautiful. I mean drop dead angel face dancer body big hearted woman. I adored this lady. She was ambitious and driven ran her own business worked a second job and well she just melted my heart. But she was also emotionally unavailable. Her parents separation at a young age as well as a recently long term relationship separation left her fridget and emotionally cold. She basically moved in after 3 weeks courting stayed 4 months and then it ended as quickly as it begun.
This lady did break my heart. We formed an emotional connection for a month chatting profusely. The even we met at the lake was a hot steamy night of pleasure and cuddling. She had a heart of gold very caring but stubborn and eventually we stopped the rollercoaster. The 28 yo, omg she was amazing. I found her mind so damned sexy and in many respects she was the mirror imagine of myself. She was such an awesome communicator caring passionate and deep. I wanted her to focus in me once we were intimate, she despite proclaiming had never communicated so much or started falling so quickly.
That played in my mind and left me feeling insecure and needy. Lol totally the opposite of my nature and I dropped the ball. She ended up blocking me. But I find a few stand outs over the past ten years with my experiences. Woman due to their insecurities or past bad experiences.
Will cut their losses or give up real potential at the first sign of an obstacle or real life drama. Woman just like men want to be loved but the notion of commitment real commitment is almost dead like the dodo folks.
Just the way it is. And to put that in context, my parents have been married 54 years this October. I have every opportunity however it never seems to work out. I have two options.. Do I stay old school and try and find a woman who is broken or playing games is emotionally available and wants to be that old couple holding hands and skipping.. I know what I want but even for the most experienced of us in this rat race they call dating.
As my name suggests , I am a curious female, who stumbled upon this article. I was interested to find a male perspective on the same issues I was coming across in this dating conundrum. Although some of the comments reminded me of the same types of men I matched with in my online dating attempts, I rather enjoy learning and trying to better understand the struggles we all face.
As a 30 something female, who is semi attractive, I have dealt with disgusting vile things online from men, and after my last attempt in dating and being told that since I am a single mom divorced I am only good for sex and not dating, I have given up officially. I find that when a computer screen separates you from another individual, you forget or maybe just no longer care that you are talking to another human being. Just my experience. To Curious Female, there are many of us good single men that are very seriously looking to meet a good woman to have a relationship with.
Hi Curious — No hang in tight. Look for an average guy with similar value as yours and personality match. Give nice guys a chance, yes we men are sexually motivated unlike women who are motivated for relationship. Men find relationship through sex and women find sex through relationship, we have to meet each other half way and give each other a chance, as long as we are HONEST.
No manners, very stuck up, no personality at all either, and are just very nasty nowadays altogether as well. God forbid just trying to start a conversation with a woman that we think would be nice to meet for us has really become very dangerous for us now as well, and we really have to be very careful of sexual harassment too on top of it all. Most women are just too very dangerous to approach, and there are many women that many of us men would really like to meet.
Unfortunately most of these women most likely had a very horrible childhood when they were growing up, and had very bad experiences with quite a few men in the past to act this way with many of us men today as i can see. The reason it's so hard to meet someone is because you're not honest with yourself or others about what you want. You might know that you're not ready for or comfortable with a serious relationship, but when you care about someone and want to give a new relationship a fair shot, you end up trying to make the other person happy even if it means sacrificing what you really want.
You're very sure of what you want in a relationship, Cancer. You have a pretty good idea of the things that are most important to you in a partner, and you've probably thought a lot about your future by now.
That said, your confidence in what you're looking for in a relationship can make you seem intimidating to some people. The reason you're having such a hard time meeting someone is because you can't find someone who wants the same things as you — or, at least, someone who is as confident as you are about their future. You feel like you have bad luck finding love, and it brings you down. One thing you always try to do, Leo, is keep a good balance between your work life and your personal life.
You are known for working hard, but you also like to play hard. That said, you have a hard time meeting someone — no matter how hard you try to keep that balance — because like just keeps you way too busy for a real relationship. You might have time for a few blind dates or casual hook-ups, but when it comes to actually meeting someone — and not just for something temporary — you find that it's a lot harder than it looks to have a relationship AND keep up in your career.
You have a very long to-do list of things you're looking for in a partner, Virgo. You like to think that it's not impossible to find what you're looking for, but you also tend to forget that people can't be exactly what you're looking for all the time.
Just because you know exactly what you want doesn't mean you're going to find someone who can embody all of that and more.
The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you're way too picky. Sure, there are things you should never waver on — like certain values — but you can't keep turning people down just for not being tall enough or having a loud laugh. One of the things you've always dreamt about for your future is a relationship that is full of affection and romance.
You dream about finding that perfect relationship all the time, and you're willing to meet as many people as possible to find it. That said, you have a hard time meeting people because what you want takes time. You're trying to rush something that isn't going to come to you in a day or a week. Don't feel like you're scaring people away by being someone who's looking for something serious right away.
Just know that if you do find someone you want to spend time with that it takes time to develop a relationship that is exactly what you want. You are very cautious with who you choose to let into your life, Scorpio.
For you, relationships are meant to last forever, so you don't want to start something with someone if you know it isn't going to last. So, naturally, you guard yourself and your heart very well from most people.
The reason it's so hard for you to meet someone is because you don't want to get hurt again. Whether it was disappointment in a friend not keeping a promise, or it was a serious heartbreak, it scares you to open up to someone new.
But now? We evaluate each other immediately. Wait, she's got a lazy eye. I don't like that, I'm going to back on the dating app and I am going to swipe for somebody who's perfect. You see the dating apps were actually created because people in general are always searching for perfection.
Then why are you constantly swiping and looking for somebody who is perfect? There is no perfect. The thing that you need to realize is that this paradox choice that we have is just that. A paradox of choice.
It's too much stimulus in our world nowadays. There are too many speakers to look for when we're looking for a pair of wireless speakers. Should we get bluetooth? Or should we get airplay? Or should we get this?
When we shop for cars, it seems like everybody, or every car manufacturer, has the same cars. The one line, two line, the three line, the four line, the five line. Are any of them even any different? But what we're doing here is just choosing the perfect car we want. We're doing it with dating. I am somebody who has no trouble meeting women.
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